Honour
what you need
to thrive
Hello. I’m Anya.
I offer coaching, mentorship, and creative thinking
to smart, sensitive souls
so they can be beautifully different in a world that wants them to hustle for their self-worth.
“What if we stopped celebrating being busy as a measurement of importance?
What if instead we celebrated how much time we had spent listening, pondering, meditating, and enjoying time with the most important people in our lives?”
— Greg McKeown, Essentialism
Tough conversations feel easier
I make hard things feel lighter while honouring the challenges.
Whether you're navigating guilt about needing rest, fear about hitting ‘publish’, or confusion about AI companionship, my warmth and humor help you talk about what's actually difficult without it feeling heavy or shameful.
People tell me they feel safe, seen, and accepted in ways that let them be honest about what's really going on.
You'll see things differently
I bring alternative perspectives that shift how you understand your situation.
Through visual metaphors, pattern recognition, and the slightly sideways way I see the world, I help you spot connections and possibilities you might have missed.
Sometimes the breakthrough isn't finding a new answer - it's seeing the question from a different angle.
Permission that comes with a plan
You won't just hear 'it's okay to rest'. You'll get frameworks that actually work with your reality.
I combine research-backed approaches with a lived understanding of what it's like to navigate chronic illness, neurodivergence, and a sensitive nervous system.
It's validation with practical support.
Swimming against the tide is tough.
You've listened to your body. You've read the books, taken the courses, tried (and occasionally succeeded) to meditate.
You've made choices and discoveries that make you feel better, and a better person to be around - more resourced, more creative, with more capacity for insight and compassion.
And yet .. embracing these choices isn't always easy.
You've been taught that your worth depends on pleasing others.
And paying attention to your needs and choices .. doesn't.
You might be here because:
You're going against what's expected of you, and feel the weight of others' judgement
You're burnt out from trying to fit systems and circumstances that weren't designed for your nervous system
You know what you need to take care of yourself but are struggling to justify it - to yourself as much as to others
You've made aligned choices, but can find it tough, lonely, or frustrating
Whether you're rejecting hustle culture, finding your creative voice, or seeking support in pioneering places, your sensitivity, unconventional choices, and need for gentleness are valid parts of being human - not character flaws to fix.
This is your permission to be human in a world that often punishes it.
So. Where shall we begin?
I work in three areas, and they're more connected than they might first appear.
All of them come back to the same thing: helping you honour what you actually need, even when that looks different from what everyone else seems to be doing.
Take a look and see what calls to you.
Newsletter & Creative Expression
For those whose perfectionism blocks their voice
If you know what you want to say but can't seem to publish
If being in people's inboxes feels vulnerable
If creative expression feels safer in theory than practice
The shift: From paralysing guilt and shame to recognising that people want to hear from you.
How I help: I spot ideas in what you're saying, identify the emotional blocks (they’re seldom never technical), and help you build practices that work with your nervous system – not against it.
What you get:
Idea generation that turns the jumble in your head into something shareable
Understanding YOUR specific blocks (perfectionism, fear of negative responses, visibility concerns)
Self-compassion work that loosens shame's grip
Support for taking action on what matters to you
This is for people who want to START or KEEP GOING - not scale to thousands.
Understanding AI Companionship
How can we guide people through this new terrain of grief and connection if we don't start from a place of kindness, curiosity, and generosity?
The feelings people develop toward AI companions are real. So is the grief when something meaningful is changed or taken away overnight.
And so is the weight of carrying an experience that the people around you – including, perhaps, your therapist – might meet with alarm rather than understanding.
This is an emerging phenomenon that deserves compassionate, evidence-based frameworks.
Not moral panic. Not pathologising.
Whether you're a helping professional wanting to show up better for clients navigating this quietly, or someone wondering if what you're feeling makes sense — you'll find kindness, curiosity, and research-backed insight here.
You already know you need something different.
The world moves at a pace that wasn't designed for sensitive, responsive people. And somewhere along the way, you learned that needing more rest, deeper quiet, or gentler rhythms meant something was wrong with you.
It doesn't.
What if the exhaustion you feel isn't a personal failing — but your system telling you the truth about what it needs? What if you could trust that need, build around it, and discover that slowing down doesn't mean falling behind?
You can trust your need for something different. And there's a way to build it that works with your nervous system, not against it.
Soft Productivity
Through working with me you will get compassionate guidance, research-backed frameworks, and the permission to make choices that work with your nervous system.
Do you struggle with people-pleasing?
You’re not alone.
I know so many big-hearted and caring people who;
Don’t know how to set boundaries
Are unable to connect with their own needs
Habitually prioritise the needs of others
Struggle to give themselves the care they give others
Which is why I’ve made a FREE 4-part 50-minute video course.
The People Pleaser’s First Aid Kit comes with videos, audios, and transcripts.
